Creative Altruistic Rebellion – Part 2

14 Aug

If you haven’t heard about the Crazily Unique Altruistic Jewelry Shop of Love, you will probably want to check out Creative Altruistic Rebellion – Part 1, before you continue reading. :)

So, although my original intention this week was to fill you in on how the Crazily Unique Altruistic Jewelry Shop of Love was rolling along and give you details about all the fun, behind the scene, stuff I have been working on, I have been inspired to go in a different direction.

CrazilyToday I want to tell you WHY I am doing this. Over the past few days, people have taken some actions that has really helped me realize a BIG part of my “why.” As most of you know by now, Robin Williams presumably committed suicide a couple of days ago, Then, on top of that, I read a friend’s post, mourning the life of a young girl who chose this same path to ease her pain.

Every time I hear of a suicide it remind me of my first experience with suicide. I was in junior high and had a crush on a cute boy that worked in the school library. Many times I looked for excuses to visit that library just to have the opportunity to say a few words to him while I checked out those books. Then one day I came to school and heard the news. In a blink of the eye, the boy I thought was so sweet, kind and charming was gone. It really broke my heart. It wasn’t something I could explain to anyone, because he was sort of my little secret. As sweet, kind and charming as he was, he was still the nerdy boy who worked in the library. And, although I didn’t see him as nerdy at all, I must have had the social instinct to know he wasn’t one of the boy’s other girls would relate to, and when you are 13 you sometimes think those things matter. So along with my heavy heart I had a ton of guilt. All I kept thinking over and over again was… what if he had known? Would admitting to him how I felt change the outcome of his decisions? Would knowing one little 7th grader was crushing on him, give him just a enough self-confidence to stick it out another day? Would the idea of a girl (any girl) liking him make him see something in himself that maybe he had not seen before? Those questions haunted me for a while, and I guess they kind of still do, because, like I said, he is the first person that comes to mind whenever I hear about a suicide.
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So, without getting too far off topic, what I have realized is that my WHY is partially responsible for his and all the other heart wrenching suicides that have occurred day after day, month after month, and year after year. As an adult, I understand that depression, and other reasons for suicide, are usually much more deep seeded than what the admission of a teenage crush can fix, but that doesn’t stop me from also knowing, in my heart of hearts, that sometimes it DOES help to know when other people value us. I guess SeviBeau’s Embrace (which is what the program will be called) is my way of helping people do that. We need a world where we are not afraid to share our love, respect or admiration for others. We need a world that recognizes the triumphs AND tribulations of others from a supportive and loving place. It needs to become a common action. There is way too much pain and suffering in this world and this program is my way of helping the public demonstrate love, support and appreciation for one another. So, all that being said, I really hope that you challenge yourself to reach out to someone you care about in this unique and heartfelt way. Let them know what they mean to you. Tell them how they have positively affected your life, Acknowledge them for being the wonderful person they are. It’s a small action that can make a huge impact.

The virtual doors open on September 1, 2014, but you can sign up now so you get all the latest news on this amazing program.

Please leave a comment below or ask any questions you may have. SeviBeau’s Embrace is meant to be for the community, so we might as well start getting to know each other now. ;)

ConnieO

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Creative Altruistic Rebellion – Part 1

4 Aug

amazing starToday, I am sharing with you some pretty radical news. Well, radical to those that don’t know me very well, and probably radical to those who aren’t familiar with the history of my SeviBeau website, but, this will probably NOT come as much of a surprise to my more loyal followers and customers.

You see, it’s time for SeviBeau to stop selling jewelry.

When I first started selling my jewelry, it was really just a means to support my fix. You know, sell my items to help fund the next shopping trip for beads and findings. But as I was building my website I realized I had this awesome opportunity to use my new website to call attention to some amazing “every-day” women. Honestly, that was the part of my new business, that really got me excited. After all, the SeviBeau name did come from the words Sexy Vibrant and Beautiful, which were all words that seemed to perfectly describe the women I wanted to honor, or even more accurately, what I wanted to BRING OUT in the women that were honored.

So, with this idea, I set out to give one piece of my jewelry away, each month, to one of the women nominated for the “Beauty Within Tribute.”  All the women nominated would have their nominations posted on my website, but only one would be able to receive a SeviBeau jewelry item of her choice. This had a pretty decent start, but I quickly noticed that only friends and family were making nominations, and that soon dwindled down to the same person being pretty consistent about making nominations (Thanks Tina!) I was getting very discouraged and didn’t understand how so few people would want to take the time to praise an important women in their life. I thought it would be such a beautiful act of love, admiration or respect.

So, I decided it was time to change things up a bit and give the Beauty Within Tribute a new name… I felt maybe it wasn’t capturing the attention of a wide enough audience, so I changed the program name to the Inner Beauty Spotlight. I really liked the new name and thought for SURE this would catch people’s attention… But to my disappointment it had absolutely no impact at all. And it was making me sad. :(  I was losing inspiration to even make jewelry because I wasn’t giving any of it away. Believe me, I wasn’t selling that much either, but I really didn’t care about that… what I cared about is not having the opportunity to post new stories about amazingly beautiful and deserving women who had previously been overlooked and unrewarded for their incredible deeds. That’s what I was missing and that is what was killing my SeviBeau spirit. Although I had created this program to help recognize these women for their remarkable contributions and acts of inner beauty, in all honesty it was a halfhearted attempt, and the Beauty Within Tribute and Inner Beauty Spotlight programs just weren’t cutting it.

That takes us up to July 25th when I was driving in my car thinking about my recent session with my business coach and an email I had sent her a few days prior. about how I could care less if I sold my jewelry, and how I would be just as happy giving it away to women who could use a pick me up or recognition for something meaningful they’ve done in their life. And well, that was my big Ah Ha moment… easy as that!

SeviBeau was never meant to be about selling jewelry, or honestly even about me making jewelry. SeviBeau is 100% about believe trianglehonoring women for their incredible acts of kindness, courage, resilience, service and sacrifice. It’s about giving people a platform to do that, and it’s about helping the world remember to take time out to pay attention to the acts of beauty around them (and within them) and to acknowledge those actions with a tribute, a thank you or good old fashioned love!

So, starting September 1, 2014, SeviBeau Jewelry will only be able to be purchased with love, respect or admiration. And more specifically, it can only be “bought” with a love letter or video, of sorts. This time around EVERY woman, who is honored in one of those videos or letters, will be gifted a one of a kind SeviBeau Jewelry item or other donated jewelry item. SeviBeau will gift as many times as we receive for as long as there is inventory to give.

Im still working out all the details and trying to figure out all the little rules that need to be put in place so that the program can be enjoyed and experienced by the most amount of people, but Im going to find a way for this to work, and not just work but thrive!!

I will be posting every Monday up until September 1st, detailing the roll out and providing opportunities for YOU to get involved in this creative altruistic rebellion. Please follow this blog to make sure you get notified of the upcoming posts. I’d hate for you to miss out on any of the details leading up to the Grand Re-Opening of this Crazily Unique Altruistic Jewelry Shop of Love!

In the meantime, leave me a comment, or share this post with anyone you think can relate to this vision!!!  The more the merrier!

Are You Adding Significance to this World?

14 Jun

Do you know when you are most happy? Have you been able to pinpoint those times and make sure you do whatever is necessary to make them happen over and over again?

If you haven’t been able to pinpoint those times you need to broaden your horizons. Experience more, do more, try more and at some point you are bound to come across a moment when you just feel completely connected to the world and feel like you have found your rightful place in the universe… and yes, I will even call it your life’s purpose. It’s an awesome and powerful feeling… which is why once you’ve had a taste of it, your instincts take over and you look for ways to reproduce the feelings, time and time again.

I know what makes me happy and I know why my little jewelry and recognition boutiques are so important to me. It’s because they help to do this for me. They help to reproduce those feelings that put me in that place of feeling at one with the universe. Over the years, I’ve found, developed, and participated in, a variety of projects that have given me that natural high. My jewelry blogs, and my yet undisclosed, new business idea, are all just other avenues I use to tap into my rightful spot in the big scheme of things.

So, what is my thing? Why is it I’ve been put on this earth? And what is my purpose of being? Im here to help people feel and understand their significance. And while Im doing that Im on a mission to help other people see and understand how important it is to do the same. It doesn’t have to be their mission, but it sure would be nice if that idea sort of caught on. My challenge to you is to proactively find ways to help others feel more significant in this world. :)

If you struggle to think of ways to help people feel significant here are a few simple and basic ideas to help you get started.

At work:

  1. Stop by someone’s desk or office, just to let them know you were thinking about them and wanted to say hi. Don’t stick around to chat, and don’t ask them for any favors while you are there. lol  Just the basics capped off with a “hope you have a great day.”
  2. Send an email to a client, associate, co-worker in another office with basically the same message. Just a quick “Hey, I was thinking about you and wanted to say hi.”
  3. Notice a peers good work product and let them know you think they are a valuable asset to your group… the kudos don’t always have to come from the boss.
  4. Are you a boss in an office and have great parking spot? Pick a week or two and let your employees take turns parking there.

At home:

  1. Say hello to your mailman, your landscaper, or your neighbor. Offer them a glass of water (if it’s hot) or tea, coffee, cocoa (if i’ts cold)
  2. Write a quick little love note to each of your family members and hide it under their pillow so they will find it when they get into bed. That will be sure to send them to sleep with a smiling heart.
  3. Call any one of your family members over to you, tell them you need their help with something, then give them a big fat hug… just because. (but don’t pull them away from their favorite thing to do this)
  4. Make up a silly (but kind) song about each of your family members and just start randomly singing it in their presence.

Out and about:

  1. Pay a compliment to a sales clerk, cashier or server, acknowledge their their speed or efficiency, or even their positive attitude or smiling face.
  2. Make a point to ask them their name and request a comment card so you can put a good word in for them.
  3. Filling up? Let someone know you like their taste in cars, or you admire how well they maintain their car’s appearance.
  4. Compliment any female on their taste in shoes (I know I love when that happens)
  5. See a mom/dad interacting well with their child/children? Let them know you think so.

There are soooooo many things we can work into our daily routines that can help people feel significant. It doesn’t have to be a big deal. Even the smallest of gestures are noticed by the person on the receiving end. And I guarantee it will brighten their day AND yours! <3

Fabulous You!

20 Oct

Did you know….

The cosmetic industry does a measly $8 BILLION a year? Or that Americans spend approximately $10 BILLION a year on plastic surgery? Or that the weight loss industry annual expenditures are estimated to be around $60 BIllion a year? These figures mean we are buying what they are selling.

But if someone came to your front door trying to sell you a new vacuum or a life insurance policy that you don’t need would you buy it? No. You wouldn’t because you know you do not need it or want it. Yet why are you saying yes to our society’s concept of beauty?

Why are we buying make-up, diets and plastic surgery that we probably don’t need? Is it because we are fascinated with our external appearance? Are we obsessed with how we look? Are we so easily manipulated and influenced by other people’s image of beauty?

I believe its because we lack self-love.

We are so convinced we are not good enough as we are, that we are vulnerable to marketing campaigns that tell us what we secretly already believe to be true. We accept the industry standards and messages that keep us pinned down. We are paralyzed by the images and messages that tell us our self-loathing is accurate. We have bought into the idea that we can be more, we can be enough, if only we improve our external appearance. Then we will be loved, we will be accepted, we will have all we deserve and we will finally be happy.

But all the make-up and exercise in the world won’t make us happy or contented if we don’t truly value ourselves first. There is nothing wrong with make-up that accentuates your natural beauty or watching your calories/working out to be healthy and to feel better about yourself. But these things need to be seen as only tools that support the fabulous you. We need to stop listening to the voices in our heads that tear us down. We need to be kinder, gentler, nicer, to ourselves. We need to tell ourselves we are beautiful, vibrant and sexy just the way we are. We need to believe that who we were born to be is plenty, in fact its more than enough, its fantastic!!! Because there is nothing more attractive than a woman who owns and accepts who she is; a woman who is confident in her worth; a woman who is authentic and lets her true self and light shine through.

SHINE FABULOUS GIRL SHINE

Timeless Blessing

13 Sep

Timeless:  without beginning or end; eternal; everlasting.

Blessing:  something promoting or contributing to happiness, well-being, or prosperity. On September 8th I turn 65, and I am pleased to share my thoughts for the Sevibeau blog.

Taylors GraduationMy definition of timeless blessing:  Family, friendship, love, and beauty; they may change over the years but the reality is they are timeless and truly a blessing. Whether you are in touch once a week, or once a year, true friendship has NO timeline. My life has been, is, and always will be a timeless blessing because of those who have touched my life whether for a second or for a lifetime. CocoaWe are shaped and Cheryl Dudley and Busteroftentimes defined by our life connections, most of the time they are good, and sometimes they have their challenges. No matter good or bad, we can choose to grow from beach scenethese experiences by keeping joy in our hearts, making a conscious decision to begin each day with happiness, and not dwell on sadness or disappointment. Keep smiling, keep positive, and keep moving forward; your spirit will naturally radiate love and beauty.

 

  

Every Woman’s Right

29 Aug

Im trying hard.

Im trying hard to be and FEEL sexy, vibrant and beautiful. I think every woman has this right, and even an obligation to pursue and feel these things for ourselves.

It makes me sad that so many women were not given permission to embrace these aspects of themselves due to the environments in which they were raised. It makes me sad that many women were taught to feel shame when it came to their beauty and their bodies, often due to the mortifying actions and behavior of family members or other people close to them that were supposed to be there to protect them and love them, in a way that built there self esteem and confidence, not in a way that tore it down. It makes me sad that society has somehow seemed to create a standardized test of what it means to be sexy and beautiful. And it really makes me sad that so many women have fell victim (including myself) to believe that this standardized test is the only way to accurately determine whether they are passing or failing.

I’m sad about these things, but there is a time to stop being sad and start getting mad. There is a time that we as women have to take back our control, despite whatever may have happened to us in our pasts and despite what “society” says about being sexy and beautiful! We ARE society… so as long as we believe it we are contributing to the problem. It’s time to take back our control and do whatever we can to build our confidence and self esteem.

As adults, we have the power to make changes that need to be made. We have the power to choose what we want to think about and what we want to focus on. I am in no way saying that this is EASY, Im just saying that it is within our control to do what needs to be done.

I wan’t to feel sexy. I want to feel vibrant and I want to feel beautiful. I’ve discovered the more I do for myself, the more healthy choices I make in fueling my body and the more effort I make in moving my body, the better I feel, physically AND mentally. I know this is no new equation. I know these methods have been used by hundreds of thousands of people with the positive results you would expect, BUT they have never fully been embraced by me AND I know there are still hundreds of thousands more out there that also struggle to embrace it.IMG_0636

I feel like I am finally on the right path. I am done being a wall flower, I am done hiding in the shadows, and I am done with the shame and regret.

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What I wish more than anything is that ANY women out there that are lacking confidence, not feeling sexy, or not feeling beautiful, stop and think about why. What is holding you back? What is keeping you from taking the steps to make yourself healthier a little at a time. This is not about weight, it’s not about how long, short or what color your hair is. This is about doing things for ourselves that honor our selves, that make us realize we are worth the time and the effort. This is about doing things that make us happy and listening to our inner desires. This is about self love.

No matter what or where we came from, we can always change it around… it doesn’t make the history go away, but what it can do is revitalize our souls. It’s time for some extreme love… extreme SELF love! As adults we are responsible for how we think and the actions we take today. There are no excuses, but what there IS is the ability to change our lives for the better, the ability to experience pride and accomplishment. It is time, it is up to us, and it is within our control to finally exercise our rights and fulfill the obligations we have to ourselves to feel sexy, vibrant and beautiful.

Molding Young Lives

16 Jul

When I think of SeviBeau, I am reminded of Connie’s fearlessness to take on something new with her passion, love, and the best intentions. How she does so is awe inspiring!  Over the years that I have been privileged to know her, she has had so many wonderful ideas of new business ventures… each and every one thinking of how to improve the lives of others.  If everyone thought like this, our world would have a different dynamic. I know that her thoughts and gestures have inspired me to be a better person and to lead a less selfish life!  I am sure I am not alone.  Generosity and love are contagious.  Keep spreading it Connie!!

In speaking with Connie about her expectations in this blog, she suggested I use my children as my inspiration.  My children are mind-boggling to me!  How do two children, born and raised in the same environment, turn out soooo completely different?  Despite their differences, they both amaze me in their abilities to take on the world!

My expectation as a first time mom was that I would have boys.  I had 4 brothers and just didn’t expect anything different.  HAHA.  A different plan was in place, as I was blessed with two beautiful girls.  My biggest fears were (and continue to be) how to raise them as independent, confident women.  So far, my fears have been somewhat assuaged as both of my girls have exhibited qualities that are in line with SeviBeau’s qualities of inner beauty.  Throughout the raising of my girls, I try to instill in them basic principles that I believe are important traits that will lead them to be the women I know they can be.  Honesty and respect being very high on this list.  Nothing makes me more proud than when my daughters show that they are learning and living things that I’ve tried to teach.  Both girls have made me proud in so many ways!

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My oldest encompasses the vibrant trait the most, though she is definitely beautiful and likely sexy as well (though I’d like to stay in denial about the latter).  My favorite thing about her is her confidence.  Mostly through her elementary years, she didn’t care what others thought.  Many people talked to me about how much they loved her attire and her spirit.  She has a carefree spirit and always brings more fun to any situation.  Frankly, vibrant and crazy go a little hand-in-hand and I LOVE HER CRAZY FUN side!  As she is maturing, the outer vibrant dressing that was often on display has shifted.  And, though it saddens me a little to see her conforming, I still see her vibrant ways in her good natured, hard-working spirit!

My youngest is my snuggle-bunny-love-bug.  Her love and empathy for others is a great example of beauty within!  If you are her friend or family member, Sophieconsider yourself special.  She will embrace you and love you with all that she is.  This trait has caused some very sad mommy moments.  We lost a grandfather-type neighbor years ago.  She still carries the love for him and sheds sincere tears over his death.  I love that she loves so deeply.  However, the pain she feels for this and other losses is so difficult to witness!  She also burdens her heart with concerns for others.  Recently, a speech she heard in her class about lung cancer included that chewing tobacco can be a contributor.  Because of this, she asked to talk to me privately and shared true concern for her Uncle who chews.  I suggested she talk to him about it and she did.  I love that she feels confident to be honest in sharing her feelings.  Consequently, he proudly shared a few weeks later that he has stopped.  She was very happy to have influenced his decision.  This is just one example of how her caring, loving ways affected the life of someone else!

Along the way, I have watched many parents in how they interact with their children.  When I am particularly impressed by a child or better yet a family, I Sandy and the galsalways take time to ask for suggestions.  How did their children get to this point?  What are their parenting tips?  Though, I do realize every child is different and no two situations will yield the same results.  Luckily, I have also had an abundance of family to learn from as well.  My grandmothers, aunts, mother, and friends have all contributed in one way or another to how I raise my children.  Favorite quotes I regularly use in my home include: “When you know better, you do better”, by Oprah Winfrey and “Life is full of choices, it’s up to you what to choose” or “Boredom is a choice”, both by Grandma Wallace.  As a mother, I am work-in-progress.  Every action and reaction is a learning experience for me.  I have so much further to go and look forward to the journey with my mind-boggling children!

Please note that as I am writing this blog from my perspective as their mom, I Paul and the girlscannot leave out that my husband is major contributor to how my girls are being raised.  The love he shows to me and both girls is a beautiful thing!  He provides them with guidelines that support my values and many that supplement them as well.  We are definitely in this together!

Thank you to Connie and SeviBeau for helping me reflect on what I want for my girls and on what they have done for me to this point! Thank you also for being an inspiration to me in my daily life and in giving back!  You are SEVIBEAU!!  You have the beauty within!  I LOVE YOU MY DEAR FRIEND!

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